Last week Cait Flanders wrote about how some people treated happiness as a general vibe that they exude and others pursued happiness as a destination. Thinking about this idea started me on a path that had me digging back through my notes on happiness research.
Our culture tends to treat happiness as a destination. Happiness is a goal for which you strive. And of course, the most surefire way to reach happiness is to be successful.
If we stop and think about this premise though, it falls apart. If success causes happiness, then we should be able to see the results. Continue reading “Happiness Causes Success”
A lot of advice for succeeding involves being different. Avoiding blending in. Not following the crowd.
Just be yourself! Be weird! People will appreciate it!
And that may all be true. But it doesn’t make it easy.
Even if being different makes sense and is logical, our brains are not built for it.
We have an evolutionary need to fit in.
Continue reading “Find Your Own Tribe”
If you’ve spent much time around these parts you may have noticed that I read a lot. One way that I find new books is by seeing who the authors that I like are reading.
Turns out, a lot of them have read Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck. Continue reading “How to Grow Your Mind”
Last week we talked about the Serenity Prayer and the importance of being able to let go of things that are outside of your control. Today, we’re going to talk about why this is not an excuse for tuning out politics.
It is quite popular in the personal finance community to argue that we should be disengaged from politics. That elections don’t really matter. That we shouldn’t be wasting our time investing in candidates or caring about elections.
This was an especially prevalent topic this past November. The whole world seemed to be hanging on every word out of the candidates’ mouths, and the personal finance blogosphere was having none of it.
Today I want to present a different view.
Elections matter. Government matters. Politics matters. And we need to do the things that are within our power to influence these things to the best of our ability.
Continue reading “Politics and the Things We Can Control”
There is often a great power in quotes.
When someone can distill an idea or a philosophy into a short, memorable collection of words, it can become a kind of mantra for people. It can be a reminder of how they want to live their life and how to be their best selves.
One example of this is the Serenity Prayer. Continue reading “The Things We Cannot Change”
In looking into ways of dealing with disappointment we explored the Stoic practice of imagining the things that could go wrong in our lives. This is a great tool for helping us blunt the painful feeling of disappointment that accompanies loss.
However, this is not the only benefit to this practice.
Continue reading “The Ancient Art of Being Thankful for What We Have”
There has been a lot of ink spilled discussing the results of the recent presidential election here in the States. I’m going to add to it today.
You can relax, though, because I will not be talking about politics directly.
Instead, I want to talk about dealing with loss and disappointment. Continue reading “Dealing with Disappointment”
I studied Stoicism before it was cool.
Okay, cool might be a bit of a stretch. It has gotten a lot more attention over the last few years, though.
Tim Ferris adopted it as his operating system. Ryan Holliday wrote a book about it that was adopted by pro sports teams. It has even made its way into the financial independence blogosphere. Continue reading “Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?”