A Short Travel Break

Hello, friends!

I will be taking a quick break from the blogosphere while I travel for the next few weeks. Because I need to work on my time management, I do not have a backlog of articles to schedule to go live while I am out of the country. I am working on being better in 2017!

I am not one for taking pictures, but if you would like to follow along with our adventures in South Africa and Spain, please check out my wife’s Instagram account. She is a photographer and will surely be sharing some fun photos along the way. Continue reading “A Short Travel Break”

Saving Money Better – Focus on the Big Wins First

A lot of people set resolutions to save more money. In fact, it was the third most popular resolution for 2015, behind only “lose weight” and “get organized.” But as we’ve noted before, only 8% of people successfully achieved their resolutions. So how do we go about making sure that we are the select few who actually do save more money?

Do you focus on the Latte Factor and cut out your daily coffee? Do you drive around in search of the best deals or spend your Sundays clipping coupons?

I would argue that if you want to save the most money, you need to first look at the areas where you spend the most money. Continue reading “Saving Money Better – Focus on the Big Wins First”

Five Tips for Better Time Management in 2017

Last week I talked about some time management goals that I had for 2017 and some things that I still need to work on in that area. I said, “I’m pretty good at time management, but I want to be better,” and that “I’ve completed the entry level time management tips.”

I also said, while discussing my prioritization issues that I’ve read around 100 books this year, which was flagged in the comments as a lot of reading.

And it certainly is. There is no doubt that I did better with time management in 2016 than I had in previous years.

Today, I want to share with you five of the tips and tools that I used to get there. Continue reading “Five Tips for Better Time Management in 2017”

How Not to Fail at Your New Year’s Resolution

45% of Americans usually make New Year’s resolutions, while another 17% make them occasionally. Of those who make resolutions, only 8% successfully achieve their goals.

That’s pretty depressing.

We’re all about self-improvement around here. While I don’t usually set New Year’s resolutions, I set goals and work to build better habits all the time. With that in mind, let’s look into making better resolutions so that you can set yourself up for success.

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New Year Adjacent Resolution

I’m not usually one for New Year’s resolutions.

Don’t get me wrong. I am all for setting goals and building habits. I am all about self-improvement. I just don’t usually tie it to the turn of the calendar year.

I am a proponent of constant self-improvement, which includes setting goals and building new habits at multiple points during a given year. Basically, whenever you discover that there is something that you could do to improve yourself, you sit down and make a plan to start working on it as soon as possible.

That said, I suppose the beginning of the calendar year is as good a time as any to induce some self-assessment.

Plus, this year I have an area of improvement that I want to work on for which the timing coincides roughly with the new year.

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The Ostrich Effect

You may be familiar with the term “burying your head in the sand.”

The image comes from the myth that ostriches avoid danger by sticking their heads in the sand and pretending it doesn’t exist.

When we are accused of burying our heads in the sand, it means that we are ignoring bad things in the hopes that they will go away. This is usually not a useful strategy.

It is also not usually intentional. We don’t purposefully avoid opening the letter from the IRS because we think that it won’t exist if we don’t read it. We just naturally want to avoid conflict and so we set it aside until we feel more prepared to face the facts.

The problem of course is that sometimes we don’t get more prepared. Sometimes that letter sits on the table unopened for a few days before getting buried under some other mail. Eventually we miss a deadline we didn’t know existed and the whole situation gets worse.

As you can imagine, burying your head in the sand is usually a terrible approach to problem solving. But not always.

The Ostrich Effect and Money Problems

When dealing with money, people very often bury their heads in the sand.

Have you ever gotten mail from your credit card company and set it aside for later instead of opening it right away? Then you have buried your head in the sand.

That bill is not going to be smaller or easier to face when you eventually open it. Instead, you will just have a shorter period of time between seeing the bill and having to pay it.

And if, as described above, the bill gets shuffled under some other paperwork, you could miss the due date and end up paying interest and late fees. It’s an expensive mistake to make.

I have worked as a tax preparer. Most people get all of the paperwork that they need to file their taxes by the end of January. But do you think I get more clients in February or April?

The closer to the deadline, the busier the office. Everyone is putting it off, to no discernible benefit. Instead, by waiting until the last minute, the process becomes more stressful and the risk of missing deadlines and paying fees because you can’t find some piece of paperwork becomes pretty high. If I forget to bring my W2 to a tax preparer on February 14, I can go home, find it, and come back whenever I have some free time. If I forget it on April 14, I will have to go into panic mode.

Another area where people bury their heads in the sand when it comes to money is in dealing with end of life issues. Nobody wants to talk about death, and so we avoid conversations about life insurance and wills, as if we cannot die until after they are set up.

The reality is that if we avoid these discussions, then the premature death of a spouse becomes not only a heartbreaking event, but a potential financial catastrophe. A financial catastrophe that could have been pretty easily avoided.

The Ostrich Effect and Relationships

There is a similar psychological concept called the Ostrich Effect that deals with relationships. This concept suggests a predictable and common sequence of events that ends up ruining relationships.

1. People have difficult moments with one another
2. Something about those moments makes them anxious
3. People avert their gazes from the source of their discomfort
4. They fasten instead upon compelling distractions that allow them to express emotions triggered by the difficult moments – but not have to deal with those emotions or moments
5. This sets in motion waves of counterfeit problems among people whose sources and solutions remain unknown
6. People then work on the wrong problems, which escalate and spread to involve others.

The idea here is similar to what we discussed with money issues. People face a problem in their relationship that makes them uncomfortable. Instead of directly addressing that problem, they avoid conflict and bury their heads in the sand. This causes the problem to continue unabated and grow worse, infecting the rest of the relationship.

Relationships are legitimately ruined because people are burying their heads in the sand instead of having an uncomfortable conversation up front.

When Burying Your Head in the Sand is Useful

Burying your head in the sand is obviously harmful and should be avoided at all costs in most situations. But not all situations.

The most obvious example of where burying your head in the sand is useful is in investing. If you are paying too close attention to your investments and are trying too hard to address issues when they arise, it becomes very easy to panic and sell your investments during a downturn.

This is tempting because you feel like you are doing something to protect yourself from further losses. But it isn’t a good idea.

If you had invested in a total stock market index fund in 2008, you would have lost quite a bit of money by 2009 and it would have been quite tempting to sell. But if you held on to it, you would have made it all back and more by 2012.

Markets go down, but they have always come back up. If you are trying to sell to avoid losses and buy back in to capture gains, then you need to get your timing right twice – once when you sell and once when you buy. Most people fail at this. Hard. It’s much easier and smarter to bury your head in the sand and ignore the ups and downs until you actually need the money.

In fact, a senior economist at the Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis found that from 2000 through 2012, burying your head in the sand would have netted you an average annual return of 5.6%, while trying to buy and sell netted investors only 3.6%.

There is a story that has made the rounds that illustrates this point well. On an episode of the Masters in Business podcast, James O’Shaugnessy told the audience that Fidelity had once done a study to find out what their best performing individual accounts had in common.

They called the owners of the best performing accounts and asked them about their investing. It turns out that the best performing accounts were those of the people who had forgotten that they had an account with Fidelity.

I will note that I cannot confirm the veracity of the story. Every telling of the story that I could find was either unsourced (come on, people), cited the podcast episode, or cited some other source that cited the podcast episode.

That said, it fits with everything else that we know about the benefits of passive, buy-and-hold investing. Even without the Fidelity study, we can say that when it comes to riding out down markets, burying our heads in the sand is a strategy that works.

So what about you? Where do you find yourself burying your head in the sand? Can you think of other instances where it is beneficial?

You Have More Money Than You Think

When we focus on wealth inequality, we always focus on the people above us.

We think of Occupy Wall Street protesting outside of investment banks. We think of Bernie Sanders gesticulating wildly while telling us about millionaires and billionaires. We think of Mitt Romney and friends with money coming out of their suits.

How we view the 1%.
How we view the 1%.

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Your Instinctive Thinking Is Losing You Money

Imagine for a moment that you are in the market for a new suit. You find one that you like for $200. A fellow customer then tells you that the same exact suit is on sale across town for only $100. Do you go?

Imagine that you are buying a new car. You’ve done your test drives and made a final decision on which make and model you want. You go to the dealer near your home to find that the car costs $30,000. A salesman sees you eyeing the car and says, “My manager would kill me for saying this, but the dealer on the other side of town has this model for $29,900.” Do you go? Continue reading “Your Instinctive Thinking Is Losing You Money”

Happy Giving Tuesday!

You may have noticed that the last few days have been quite geared towards consumerism.

First, you had Black Friday, which in many places now actually starts on Thanksgiving.

Next came Small Business Saturday, which came about as a response to Black Friday intended to help smaller companies keep up with the big box stores.

And finally, yesterday, we had Cyber Monday, when the online retailers follow suit.

That’s quite a few days aimed directly at getting us to buy more things.

If you’re frustrated by the increasing consumerism and focus on buying stuff that has consumed the weekend after Thanksgiving, you are not alone. One group is trying to shift the focus from consumerism to charity. Continue reading “Happy Giving Tuesday!”

The Ancient Art of Being Thankful for What We Have

In looking into ways of dealing with disappointment we explored the Stoic practice of imagining the things that could go wrong in our lives. This is a great tool for helping us blunt the painful feeling of disappointment that accompanies loss.

However, this is not the only benefit to this practice.

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