Advocating for Women Has Helped My Career

I recently talked to Tanja from Our Next Life about feminism and being a male ally for the Fairer Cents podcast. The episode will go live on Wednesday (2/6/19) and you will be able to download it from the Fairer Cents feed on your favorite podcast platform. (But then, why aren’t you already subscribed?)

One of the questions that Tanja asked was about the negative consequences for men that speak up on behalf of women. This is a fair question and there are certainly negative consequences and risks to putting yourself out on a limb.

But today I want to put a bit of a different spin on that. Today I want to talk about the positive consequences of speaking out. Continue reading “Advocating for Women Has Helped My Career”

Happiness is Other People

Today we’re continuing our recap of 2018 by reviewing what we learned in September.

We had already made a few jaunts into happiness by this point. We learned about the science of happiness, the intersection of money and happiness, and the philosophy of happiness.

In September we built on this base by exploring how our relationships impact our happiness. Continue reading “Happiness is Other People”

Answering UBI Questions and Concerns (Universal Basic Income Part 3)

Last week we started our deep dive into Universal Basic Income.

First we learned what UBI actually is and what the different visions for it entail. Then we dove into the research to learn that giving people money works.

Today we’re going to tackle a whole range of other questions and concerns that people have about UBI.

(Today’s post is going to reference information we learned in the last two posts, so if you feel like you’re missing something, feel free to double back and catch up!) Continue reading “Answering UBI Questions and Concerns (Universal Basic Income Part 3)”

Better Life – Third Quarter Update

2018 is a year of self-improvement.

I’m spending each month exploring a different area of life and figuring out how best to improve and optimize.

As of the last quarterly update we had covered life planning, personal finance basics, time management, the science of happiness, money and happiness, and health.

Since then, we’ve added philosophy and happiness, investing and the economy, and relationships.

Let’s check in for the third quarter update. Continue reading “Better Life – Third Quarter Update”

Forgiving Others to Help Yourself

Today will be the last post focusing on happiness and relationships for the month, as we’ll wrap up the month with a quarterly recap. But don’t worry, we’ll make it an interesting one!

After exploring the power of relationships generally, some specific relationships, and a couple of broader concepts, I want to wrap up the topic of happiness and relationships by zooming out for one last concept.

For that we will dive into the topic of forgiveness. Continue reading “Forgiving Others to Help Yourself”

The Surprising Power of Community

During our September dive into relationships and happiness we’ve learned that strong relationships make us happier.

We also know that helping others makes us happy.

This makes sense to the extent that helping people we know strengthens our relationships with them.

One of the mysteries, though, is why helping strangers makes us happier. It doesn’t strengthen our relationships, because we may never see those people again or we may be doing our good deeds anonymously. In the case of some charities we may not even be able to identify the specific people that we are helping. And yet, we still are happier.

One possible solution is that helping others, even others that we don’t know, makes us feel like part of a larger community. Continue reading “The Surprising Power of Community”

Staying Happy in the Social Media Era

If we’re exploring the role of relationships in happiness, we need to look into social comparison.

It’s great that relationships make us happier, but what if our friends are more successful? Or less successful? What impact does it have when we see photos of other people’s cool vacation and new houses?

How does our mindset and happiness change based on comparison to the people around us? Or the people we see on social media?

And how can we be happy in an age when everyone shares everything online?

Let’s find out! Continue reading “Staying Happy in the Social Media Era”

Helping Yourself By Helping Others

We’re spending the month of September exploring relationships and happiness.

We started by learning about the importance of relationships generally to our happiness before diving into specific relationships with spouses and kids.

Now we’re going to zoom back out and look at broader concepts.

Today, we’ll be exploring the extraordinary happiness benefits of doing things for other people. Continue reading “Helping Yourself By Helping Others”

Will Kids Make You Happier?

I’m a new father this year and when I decided to explore the intersection between relationships and happiness I knew I wanted to see what the research found on how children affect our happiness.

I’ve read a lot of research on children this year, but pretty much all of it had to do with best practices in raising them. Now I wanted to see the impact that children have on adults.

Do kids make us happier?

I could wax poetic about my own experience, but if you’ve been here before you know I’d rather dive into the data. We’re all biased when it comes to our own experiences, but aggregated data is less biased.

So what does the data say? Do kids make us happier?

Well…It depends on how you define happy.

And where you live. Continue reading “Will Kids Make You Happier?”

Does Marriage Make You Happier?

We know how important relationships are to our happiness.

Given that our closest relationship is with our spouse, our spouse (or lack thereof) should be a really important factor in our happiness, right?

This seemed like the obvious place to start in understanding relationships and happiness, so I dove into the research on marriage. The data on whether marriage makes you happier is…a bit complicated. Continue reading “Does Marriage Make You Happier?”