Advocating for Women Has Helped My Career

I recently talked to Tanja from Our Next Life about feminism and being a male ally for the Fairer Cents podcast. The episode will go live on Wednesday (2/6/19) and you will be able to download it from the Fairer Cents feed on your favorite podcast platform. (But then, why aren’t you already subscribed?)

One of the questions that Tanja asked was about the negative consequences for men that speak up on behalf of women. This is a fair question and there are certainly negative consequences and risks to putting yourself out on a limb.

But today I want to put a bit of a different spin on that. Today I want to talk about the positive consequences of speaking out. Continue reading “Advocating for Women Has Helped My Career”

Happiness is Other People

Today we’re continuing our recap of 2018 by reviewing what we learned in September.

We had already made a few jaunts into happiness by this point. We learned about the science of happiness, the intersection of money and happiness, and the philosophy of happiness.

In September we built on this base by exploring how our relationships impact our happiness. Continue reading “Happiness is Other People”

How to Buy Happiness

Our year end recap continues today with the articles published in May.

After learning about life planning, personal finance basics, and time management and productivity, we started exploring the world of happiness.

Following our introduction to happiness in April, we went on to spend the month of May diving into the intersection of money and happiness. Continue reading “How to Buy Happiness”

Forgiving Others to Help Yourself

Today will be the last post focusing on happiness and relationships for the month, as we’ll wrap up the month with a quarterly recap. But don’t worry, we’ll make it an interesting one!

After exploring the power of relationships generally, some specific relationships, and a couple of broader concepts, I want to wrap up the topic of happiness and relationships by zooming out for one last concept.

For that we will dive into the topic of forgiveness. Continue reading “Forgiving Others to Help Yourself”

Helping Yourself By Helping Others

We’re spending the month of September exploring relationships and happiness.

We started by learning about the importance of relationships generally to our happiness before diving into specific relationships with spouses and kids.

Now we’re going to zoom back out and look at broader concepts.

Today, we’ll be exploring the extraordinary happiness benefits of doing things for other people. Continue reading “Helping Yourself By Helping Others”

Buying Happiness by Giving Away Your Money

This month at Optimize Your Life we are exploring the intersection of money and happiness.

We spent the first week of May learning the basics and how low income can cause unhappiness.

Last week we looked at ways to get more happiness out of the money that we already spend.

We’re spending this week exploring places where we should spend more money to get more happiness. We started on Tuesday with spending more money on experiences.

Today I want to look at a more counterintuitive option: giving your money away. Continue reading “Buying Happiness by Giving Away Your Money”

Comfort is Not Happiness

I spend a lot of time reading, thinking, and writing about happiness.

For years before I started writing here, I was just looking for ways to improve my own life. I wanted to understand why people who seemed like they had everything were still unhappy.

I wanted to find the traps that others fell into so that I could avoid them.

It is quite clear to me at this point that most people are not as happy as they could be. 

And I believe that the main culprit is mistaking comfort for happiness.

Continue reading “Comfort is Not Happiness”

Act Like the Person You Want to Be

This is an article that I have had kicking around in my head for quite some time.

It was originally an uplifting and positive article. The context has changed, though. The world has changed.

The idea centers on a Kurt Vonnegut quote.

“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be very careful what we pretend to be.”

This is a very powerful truth. One that I firmly believe we should harness to become better people. Continue reading “Act Like the Person You Want to Be”

Is It Worth It? (Why I Save So Much, Part 4)

Over the last couple weeks I’ve run through a lot of my philosophy behind saving and investing. I discussed that I invest at least as much as I spend every month because I want to buy options for my life, because I see the value of labor declining over time, and because I don’t want to need to start a new career path if mine gets automated out of existence.

The big question for most people at this point is: “Is it worth it?” Continue reading “Is It Worth It? (Why I Save So Much, Part 4)”

Lessons Learned from Lives Well-Lived

On Tuesday I wrote about the recent death of my grandfather. I was planning to write and post that article earlier, but could not convince myself to write after that event was followed up a week later by the death of my other grandfather.

After going most of my life without having to deal with many deaths of loved ones, there have been quite a few packed into the last few years.

This has been hard. I continue to remind myself that death is what gives meaning to life. It is natural and necessary. It is important.

It still sucks. Continue reading “Lessons Learned from Lives Well-Lived”