Today will be the last post focusing on happiness and relationships for the month, as we’ll wrap up the month with a quarterly recap. But don’t worry, we’ll make it an interesting one!
After exploring the power of relationships generally, some specific relationships, and a couple of broader concepts, I want to wrap up the topic of happiness and relationships by zooming out for one last concept.
For that we will dive into the topic of forgiveness. Continue reading “Forgiving Others to Help Yourself”
Welcome to a bonus article!
We’ve been spending 2018 looking at a different theme each month in an effort to live a happier, richer, and more productive life. We’re still sticking to that plan and will keep our Tuesday/Thursday schedule for those articles, but I felt like I needed to add an in-betweener this week.
I tweeted about my student loans a couple days ago and it connected with people a bit more than I expected. As of this writing it has hundreds of thousands of likes, tens of thousands of retweets, and over 9 million views on Twitter. It also got screenshotted by other people and ended up on Instagram and the front page of Reddit.
Much of the reaction has been either laughter, which was the goal, or support, which is great. There have also been a lot of questions and comments as well as more anger than I am used to.
I couldn’t keep up with and respond to all of the comments and mentions, so I thought it might be worth taking time to address some of the more common reactions here. Continue reading “Bonus! The Student Loan Tweet Responses”
During our September dive into relationships and happiness we’ve learned that strong relationships make us happier.
We also know that helping others makes us happy.
This makes sense to the extent that helping people we know strengthens our relationships with them.
One of the mysteries, though, is why helping strangers makes us happier. It doesn’t strengthen our relationships, because we may never see those people again or we may be doing our good deeds anonymously. In the case of some charities we may not even be able to identify the specific people that we are helping. And yet, we still are happier.
One possible solution is that helping others, even others that we don’t know, makes us feel like part of a larger community. Continue reading “The Surprising Power of Community”
If we’re exploring the role of relationships in happiness, we need to look into social comparison.
It’s great that relationships make us happier, but what if our friends are more successful? Or less successful? What impact does it have when we see photos of other people’s cool vacation and new houses?
How does our mindset and happiness change based on comparison to the people around us? Or the people we see on social media?
And how can we be happy in an age when everyone shares everything online?
Let’s find out! Continue reading “Staying Happy in the Social Media Era”
We’re spending the month of September exploring relationships and happiness.
We started by learning about the importance of relationships generally to our happiness before diving into specific relationships with spouses and kids.
Now we’re going to zoom back out and look at broader concepts.
Today, we’ll be exploring the extraordinary happiness benefits of doing things for other people. Continue reading “Helping Yourself By Helping Others”
I’m a new father this year and when I decided to explore the intersection between relationships and happiness I knew I wanted to see what the research found on how children affect our happiness.
I’ve read a lot of research on children this year, but pretty much all of it had to do with best practices in raising them. Now I wanted to see the impact that children have on adults.
Do kids make us happier?
I could wax poetic about my own experience, but if you’ve been here before you know I’d rather dive into the data. We’re all biased when it comes to our own experiences, but aggregated data is less biased.
So what does the data say? Do kids make us happier?
Well…It depends on how you define happy.
And where you live. Continue reading “Will Kids Make You Happier?”
We know how important relationships are to our happiness.
Given that our closest relationship is with our spouse, our spouse (or lack thereof) should be a really important factor in our happiness, right?
This seemed like the obvious place to start in understanding relationships and happiness, so I dove into the research on marriage. The data on whether marriage makes you happier is…a bit complicated. Continue reading “Does Marriage Make You Happier?”
We’re spending each month of 2018 exploring a different topic to improve our lives. Consistent with that goal, we’ve spent a lot of time this year exploring happiness.
In April we looked into the science of happiness.
In May we learned about the intersection of money and happiness.
And in July we jumped into happiness and philosophy.
For September, we’re going to spend one last month learning about happiness. This time we’ll be exploring the factor that may be the single most important: relationships. Continue reading “Getting Happier with Other People”